Big Time by Cynthia D. Grant5/19/2023 Soon thereafter, I was awarded a very handsome research grant and an unnamed official announced this achievement in a meeting. The take home message is that when moms do what they have to do, they neither need nor expect thanks or praise, but when dads do something ordinary, you better bring out the gold stars. I imagined the other six nights a week when Mom cooks, kids rushing away from the table, throwing their dishes in the dishwasher, and heading off to do their homework. She ingeniously worked with her kids back-channel to get Dad to cook more often. This little orchestrated round of applause increased the likelihood that Dad would put meat to grill in the near future and give Mom a break from her daily cooking routine. When the kids asked why they needed to do that for Dad, she responded, “Men are like that, they need to be praised.” The next night, Dad donned his man apron and grilled, and the kids slathered him with compliments. Regardless of whether they liked the meal, she encouraged them to thank him for cooking and tell him how great it was. I promise that all of my posts won’t be this long, but this one has been brewing for a long time.Ībout a month ago, a female colleague told me a story how she coached her children to compliment their father liberally on those rare occasions that he cooked. A syzygy of experiences and articles has jolted me back into a state of outrage about the status of women in 2015.
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